Heterogeneous multi-modal remote sensing object detection aims to accurately detect objects from diverse sensors (e.g., RGB, SAR, Infrared). Existing approaches largely adopt a late alignment paradigm, in which modality alignment and task-specific optimization are entangled during downstream fine-tuning. This tight coupling complicates optimization and often results in unstable training and suboptimal generalization. To address these limitations, we propose BabelRS, a unified language-pivoted pretraining framework that explicitly decouples modality alignment from downstream task learning. BabelRS comprises two key components: Concept-Shared Instruction Aligning (CSIA) and Layerwise Visual-Semantic Annealing (LVSA). CSIA aligns each sensor modality to a shared set of linguistic concepts, using language as a semantic pivot to bridge heterogeneous visual representations. To further mitigate the granularity mismatch between high-level language representations and dense detection objectives, LVSA progressively aggregates multi-scale visual features to provide fine-grained semantic guidance. Extensive experiments demonstrate that BabelRS stabilizes training and consistently outperforms state-of-the-art methods without bells and whistles. Code: https://github.com/zcablii/SM3Det.