Recent advances in image editing have heightened the need for reliable Image Editing Quality Assessment (IEQA). Unlike traditional methods, IEQA requires complex reasoning over multimodal inputs and multi-dimensional assessments. Existing MLLM-based approaches often rely on human heuristic prompting, leading to two key limitations: rigid metric prompting and distance-agnostic score modeling. These issues hinder alignment with implicit human criteria and fail to capture the continuous structure of score spaces. To address this, we propose Define-and-Score Image Editing Quality Assessment (DS-IEQA), a unified framework that jointly learns evaluation criteria and score representations. Specifically, we introduce Feedback-Driven Metric Prompt Optimization (FDMPO) to automatically refine metric definitions via probabilistic feedback. Furthermore, we propose Token-Decoupled Distance Regression Loss (TDRL), which decouples numerical tokens from language modeling to explicitly model score continuity through expected distance minimization. Extensive experiments show our method's superior performance; it ranks 4th in the 2026 NTIRE X-AIGC Quality Assessment Track 2 without any additional training data.